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Where did I come from? Who did I come from?


The age old question of children:  “Where did I come from? ”  It’s our nature to what to know where we came from.  I think that is for many reasons.  Knowing where we came from explains our present and can guide our futures.  And in answering that question of where, we grow up wanting to know more about the ‘who’ behind that where.

We come from our parents, obviously.  We are the genetic makeup of our parents and their parents and so forth and so on back to Adam and Eve.   Of course, after Noah and the Great Flood, I guess we should say back to Noah and his family.

And then Abraham had Israel and Ishmael.  Ishmael being the son of Abraham’s wife’s servant Hannah was sent away and so the Arab world can trace its roots back to  him.  Israel was the father of the Jewish world which begat the Christian world, since Jesus was Jewish and the Christ whose followers are Christians.

And as these cultures spread throughout the world, they propagated and created countries and traditions and cultures that are handed down generation to generation.

I said all of that to say this:  I have been working on my family tree.  I have always been interested in my family members and who went where and who did what.  I loved listening to my paternal grandmother explaining what her sisters did and what her father built.  Or listening to my mother talk of her family’s farm.

We go to school and learn history and then as we get older to understand that our aunts, uncles, etc were in that war or were a part of that piece of history.

And then in the late 1970’s, Alex Haley wrote a book which became the first TV mini-series: Roots.  He had traced his family history back and then sparked an interest in the hearts of millions by sharing his story, his history, with the world.   One of those hearts that got sparked was my Aunt Janet.   She organized our family’s first reunion in the early 1980’s.  Her mother, my paternal grandmother, had died in 1980 and it was obvious that the family was beginning to lose touch with each other.  And so for years we met once a year to catch up with one another, share stories, embrace the new family members and remember those that had left us.

This is when my heart got sparked to start working on the family tree…in my own little way.  I did it all my hand and only concerned myself with my dad’s family from his parents down.  And our family has grown since those days.

Fast forward to March 2011 when my boyfriend gifted me with Family Tree Maker*.  Ok, this is NOT an ad for the program so don’t think that I’m trying to sell anything.  I mention it for one thing: it helped me organize my tree in a more consistent manner and it came with a 1 month subscription to Ancestry.com*.   And that is when my spark became a flame that became a wildfire.  I had to have a subscription!  And no I’m not selling Ancestry.com either.  But I will say it made this couch potato’s love of history come to life as I was able to find my family roots back to the arrival into the United States.  (I have my hands full enough with just this section of my family history–maybe one day I’ll try to trace the German and French and other foreign language records.)  But I do encourage you to find a way to organize your notes and papers.  And there are many many websites to help you along your journey…many of which are free.

I have enjoyed exploring not only my roots, but the roots of all those that are or have been a part of the family.  I have learned of family that registered or were drafted into World War I, World War II, and the Korean War.  There are members that only served in peace time, and those that are currently serving.  And although my direct roots did not come to America until the 1870-1880’s,  I found some Confederate States of America soldiers.

My father’s family came to this country from Germany  and landed in Baltimore on their way to St Louis, Missouri.   My mother’s family came from Germany and entered through the port of New Orleans on their way to Illinois.   Dad’s family were laborers.  Mom’s family were farmers.

Dad’s family stayed in and around St Louis, except for the women who followed their husbands to new homes out of state.  Mom’s family moved to Mississippi and Arkansas for farms.

And through this entire journey over the last year, I have come to understand a bit more about myself.  I come from strong German families that labored in factories and labored in the fields.  One side lived in the city and the other side in rural areas.   Although German, diversity came together in my parents.  Mom was raised in the South with its traditions and social differences.  Dad was raised in the North with its own identity.   Even their Catholicism was different.  I like to think that I have the best of both worlds.

Our family grew and spread throughout the United States and the next generation is carrying that on.  Each of us bringing the traditions and cultures we have learned with us, whether we realize it or not.   Our parents influence our speech, our walk, our values, our morals–we can’t escape it.  We might not agree, but their influence still affected us.

We each have a history inside of us.  And as we live our lives, and co-exist with the previous and future generations, we share that history with their history.   All I know is that I understand more about who I am, who I came from and where I want to go.

So if you are searching for who you are–try looking into your tree.  You just might be surprised.


* Family Tree Maker and Ancestry.com are from the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints, in Provo, Utah.


Happy New Year!


Isn’t it amazing how from childhood on we look forward to Christmas or Hanukkah or Kwanzaa or whatever holiday garners us gifts of things we would normally just dream of and desire. We start making our wish lists the day after the last Big Day and dream of what we want and need Santa or parents or grandparents or boyfriends or girlfriends to bring us.

We dream of that day more than any other day of the year…I would almost venture to guess more than a Birthday, Wedding Day, or Graduation Day. Yes, those are all Big Days, but none as wonderful as those end of the year, world celebrating days of shopping, parties, and festivities all in the name of that Big Day.

And yet that is just one day. Today is the start of an entire new Year! A year that should be thought of, planned for, and enjoyed as much as that one Big Day. We have a year of birthdays of our friends and family and coworkers. But we should be planning for our own birthday. What do we expect in our new ‘age’ and what role does it play in the grand scheme of our lives?

We have an entire year of weddings, anniversaries, and other special events that we ourselves will celebrate or our friends and families. What a great time to just sit back and think of the fun and festivities we have celebrated in the past and what we can do this year to make that day special.

And most of all, think about all those days in between those Big Days. The ordinary days when we wake up and live our lives by going to work, looking for work, cleaning house, taking care of children, taking care of parents, going to school, taking care of pets, etc. There is a joy in those ordinary days if you think about it.

We are alive to enjoy it–good bad or indifferent. We are in this world and our actions or inactions effect everyone. That call you meant to make could put a smile on your mom’s face. Those flowers you meant to send just might make a sick friend feel better. That card you meant to send could be what makes someone realize they are not alone. Simple acts–big results.

And so as we start this new year, think of your big and little days and rejoice that we can enjoy them. I leave you with a poem my mom gave me long ago when I was a child. It was given to her by a teacher of hers in her boarding school when she was very young. So Sister Declan, thank you:

I wish you wealth
I wish you health
I wish you gold in store
I wish you heaven here on earth
What could I wish you more?